I've mentioned The Power of a Positive Woman before. It is the book that my Bible Study group is doing this year.
This week's chapter is on joy. Specifically, the joy that comes when our lives are in balance. I'm not sure that I know what a life in balance looks like, but I'm quite familiar with what a life out of balance looks like.
The author makes a reference to how we can get too much on our trays, much like a visit to Luby's. That so took me down memory lane...
When I was about 6, my mom, grandmother and I would often go to Wyatt's Cafeteria for lunch on Fridays. One day after our meal, my mom asked why I always got so much food that I never touched. I responded that I thought you had to take something from everyone that offered.
That statement is pretty much a characterization of my entire life.
I cannot tell you the number of times I've said "yes" to things that I have no desire, calling, experience or business doing. I never even stop to think about it...I just say yes.
I've read the book Boundaries (because someone told me to and I wasn't able to say no). I know that I should pray and talk to The King before I agree to anything. But so often (always) I don't. I just say yes.
I know that I am setting a bad example for The Princess. I know that I wear myself out and add stress to our home. But still...I just say yes.
Actually, I do say "no" on occasion. It is to my husband and daughter because I've said "yes" to so many other things for people that don't mean nearly as much to me.
Just as the Wyatt's Cafeteria people would ring the bell for someone to come and carry the really hungry 6-year-old's tray, I end up calling out, too.
Unfortunately, it's usually through gritted teeth at my family for something completely unrelated.
God has really been working in this area of my life.
My issue is that I don't like to disappoint people (at least, the ones that don't live in my home).
Wouldn't it be a shame if I let that rule my life forever? My family would most certainly suffer for it. I would be miserable, not to mention, really busy.
I am going to bet that many of you have this same issue. Or maybe y'all have already figured it out and can pass on your words of wisdom.
I'm going to go finish the chapter.
And think about Jello and big rolls and chicken fried steak and macaroni and cheese and fried okra and chocolate pie...